The Mitfords – Letters Between Six Sisters

My idea had been to read 30 or 40 pages every day of this massive unwieldy tome of a book but when I started to read it I found that after 40 pages I just wanted to read on and on so within a couple of days I’ve reached page 320 which takes us up to the end of 1959, which, I have to say was a very good year for me anyway.

I’ve decided to blog about that first section of the book which begins in 1925. I’ll give you a bit of a summary of the family in case you don’t know about them. The Mitford parents were of course Lord and Lady Redesdale a sort of mis-matched couple belonging to what I think you could call the minor British aristocracy, rather than the first eleven such as the Devonshires. They are always written about as if they are terribly poor but it’s all comparative and I’m sure that when compared with the average family income at that time then they would have been very well off indeed, even after the financial troubles of the 1930s. The eccentric behaviour of Lord Redesdale in particular turned out to be great copy for his daughters who wrote about their unusual childhoods with their father hunting them across his fields with his dogs, to the horror of the villagers.

It was a time when the British public were obsessed with ‘their betters’ and as the six Mitford girls grew up they were hardly out of the newspaper gossip columns or magazine front pages. At least some of the Mitford girls did eventually earn their fame through their writing but for Diana and Unity it was their choice of men which brought them notoriety.

During the early 1930s they both became interested in fascist politicians, maybe I should say they were entranced. Diana was besotted with Sir Oswald Mosley, the already married leader of the British Fascist Party which led to lots of trouble and violence in streets as fascists and communists/socialists clashed in demonstrations. In the end he had to be imprisoned during World War II as he would have been likely to have helped the Nazis in any way that he could. The same fate befell Diana who was by that time married to him. The Mitfords were related to Winston Churchill and lots of other influential people so until then they had mixed in very high society, including that other couple of fascistic sewers/suars, the Duke and Duchess of Windsor.

Unity was even more deluded than Diana as she was obsessed with Hitler and didn’t worry at all about the inhumanity of the Nazis. I hadn’t realised just how ‘pally’ she was with him and when you read that she wrote to Diana saying: Hitler had given her a flat which had belonged to a young Jewish couple who were going abroad. It’s horrific how matter of fact she was about it all. In fact just about the whole family seems to have met Hitler in Munich, including the parents, Lady Redesdale seems to have been won over to the Nazi cause and stayed that way until her death.

It was a time when lots of the so called aristocracy were on the far right side, just as they are now I suppose but a lot of the war time shenanigans were hushed up.

As you can imagine the early letters in this book can be fascinating, with Unity describing her visit to Berchtesgaden and that massive glass window, the biggest piece of glass in the world, with that breathtaking but somehow soulless view of the mountains. I hadn’t realised it could be wound down like a car window.

The sisters called each other by numerous family nicknames but there’s a list of them at the front of the book and I must admit that I did have to look a few times to see who was being written about. It’s not all politics and plenty of the letters are about family matters which often didn’t run smoothly. In fact there are plenty of real tragedies along the way, especially with children who came to grief, but it was the days of the stiff upper lip and these things are hardly mentioned at all.

The (Dowager) Duchess of Devonshire (Deborah Mitford) has had seven pregnancies I think, but only three living children to show for them all. It must have been heart-breaking for her. All that money and social position doesn’t really count for much when you get down to it.

Of course Deborah had married ‘the spare’ second son of the Duke of Devonshire but due to the heir being killed in the war her husband eventually became the duke. The eldest son had married one of the (JFK)Kennedy girls – Kathleen, known as Kick, and she came to grief too as so many of that clan did.

The letters are witty and gossipy, for instance, their nickname for the Queen Mother was – no not gin but ‘Cake’. I haven’t mentioned the communist sister yet, I’ll keep that for a later post. I’m enjoying the book so it seems like a quick read, despite the 804 pages, I just wish it was easier to read in bed.

Oh and my top tip – if you want to marry money, marry into a brewery family. The Guinness and Tennant families feature in the family tree and a Watney almost did – I kid you not!

10 thoughts on “The Mitfords – Letters Between Six Sisters

  1. I was just completely fascinated with this book, and like you I just kept reading on. I haven’t found any of the books about the Mitfords as interesting as the books by the Mitfords – like these letters. Unity’s gave me such a chill, as did Diana’s – I think she was almost as besotted with Hitler as with Mosely. But “Cake” made me laugh!

    • Lisa,
      Just about all of them had terrible taste in men and were treated really badly by them. I think it must have been something to do with having a father who was quite mad. I liked Princess Margaret’s nickname too – Little Princess Peep-Toes.

  2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this book. I have yet to read anything regarding the Mitfords but I am fascinated by the dynamic of them and the history,

    I look forward to hearing more and will certainly look out for the book and perhaps some of the others as well.

    • Jo,
      I was thinking that I had just read Nancy’s novels but then I remembered that I read Jessica’s Hons and Rebels years ago. You should try to get that from your library, I think you would like it.

  3. I had never heard of the Mitfords (news travels slowly- or not at all – to the colonies) until my sister gave me Mary Lovell’s biography Sisters a few years ago.

    I loved it, and am really interested in this book of letters. I do hope our provincial library system carries it!

    • Debbie,
      I haven’t read that one yet. I did read Deborah’s – Wait For Me – recently and I think you would like that as well as Jessica’s – Hons and Rebels. I’m sure they’ll be something by the Mitfords in your library system, I think!

        • Debbie,
          Some of her books are really funny but I think in real life she was fairly nasty and had a jealous nature, especially with her sisters. I used to work in a library which had the reserve stock downstairs in a basement, I used to enjoy going down there to look for particular books even although it was a bit spooky.

  4. The Mitford sisters were definitely fascinating if a little unstable. I own the Lovell book and would like to read it someday. The letters must hugely compelling for you to read such a heavy book in bed!

    • Anbolyn,
      I think the book should have been in two volumes because wherever you read it it’s going to be awkward. As I don’t work I’ve been able to read it at anytime during the day but I’ve been reading on my bed rather than in it because I have a good reading light there. The weather has been wet and grey so my house is dark – in June! I suppose you can hardly imagine it but we’re back to November weather here, the one consolation is it’s even worse in England and Wales where lots of poor souls have been flooded out, the rain has been torrential. As you say, the Mitfords were unstable – such a kind way of putting it!

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